One’s lonely, two’s a party and three is…a third party?
While open relationships are still getting more and more popular among many unconventional couples, there still are men who are hidden in the secret quarters as the “other boyfriend”. They are the ones who are usually content with secret calls, secret dates, and secret codes.
The problem with this kind of setup is, even if you know all the best date places, you can’t just go to them, for fear that people might see you together.
I am not talking about guys who are going out with players and are unaware of what’s going on behind his back. I am talking about guys who actually go behind the back of other men to sneak in on their girls.
There are three common types of men who agree to be the other men:
- The I’ll-do-it-all-for-love type of guy. They are aware that their girlfriends are taken and they don’t care. They live for their clandestine meetings and they’re doing it out of love. And worse, they are willing to wait for the day the girl finally “musters the courage to break up with their current loves” and give up everything only for him.
- Mr. Competition. They are the type of men who live for the competition. They love the rush of getting to snag a girl even when she’s already dating someone. They get a certain sense of ego high from knowing a girl would cheat for them; but they are not keepers. They are in it for the competition and they lose interest in the women as soon as she falls for him and gives up her current love.
- In-It-Just-For-The-Sake-Of-It. Just as the name suggests, they cheat with another girl just because. No romantic reason, no psychological whatever thingamajigs, na-da. They enjoy the company when it’s there, and they’re practically fine with someone else too. For whatever reason you or a guy friend is in it, there are enough reasons to break it off.
- Yes, including you Mr I’ll-do-it-all-for-love. Let me talk you out of it with these reasons:
Karma is just around the corner. With your fifteen minutes of happiness being the other guy, some other guy is getting disadvantaged. And if the universe turns its karma button on you, what goes around comes around and you may be in the exact same position as that other guy too in some other moment in your life.
What makes you think you’re the only one? Dear men, girls can be players too. So if she’s cheating on him for you, what assures you that he is not double-cheating on her girlfriend and you?
It may not be the safest place to be. You can never be too sure that you’re the only one she’s hooking up with, or that her current fling does not own a gun and has anger management issues. Hooking up with some other guy’s girl may just endanger your health or your life.
Regular ones are less complicated. You can go out freely and in the open without any danger of being seen by people her boyfriend knows. Plus you don’t feel like the booty call guy so your ego and dignity is intact at the end of the day.
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