Everyone is on Facebook. Even my 50-something mom finds her way tinkering through Likes and Shares and comments. And I cannot even decide where to begin on telling you the tales of how many people are on Twitter and Instagram. It would probably be easier to count how many are not on any of the social media sites around.
I was pretty content on doing my thing on Facebook – liking stuff, sharing them someone who is a million miles away from me, and reading about other people’s and couple’s life updates. It was okay until it started bugging me how other couples talk about their personal problems on Facebook, how they indirectly target each other in posts and comments and how they break-up-and-make-up on the social media portal. And it gets worse when you’re friends with both of them. I had the urge to message them both and tell them how it would be so much easier if they take everyone else out of the problem and talk about it ALONE. But, the most that I could do was ‘hide’ them from my News Feed and be spared of their little fights.
Social media can make or break a relationship. Be careful!
And then it annoyed me even further when my supposed anti-social girlfriend started getting friend requests and messages from unknown men. I am just happy she never responded to them, but it still didn’t feel too good when other men made pretty apparent advances with their private messages EVEN WHEN THEY COULD DELIBERATELY SEE THAT SHE WAS IN A RELATIONSHIP and the photo on his profile says exactly that.
I was lucky she ignored them all and kept her Facebook with only two friends (me and my mom). If I discovered she was taking it with them to the next level, I would have had my heartbreak then. But other girls didn’t have it as easily. I know a couple who broke up over a girl whom the guy met on FB. Isn’t that just such an annoying way to end a relationship? Oh, yeah, that too. They broke up on the site too. *facepalm meme here*
How Social Media Can Hurt A Relationship
All this realization got me thinking however: whose fault is it when relationships are affected by your involvement on social media sites – yours or the sites? I take the former. Here are some of the most common ways your social media behavior hurts your relationship:
1. Divulging too much – I don’t understand how others find delight in telling the world the dirtiest detail of their personal problems and being ‘feasted on’ by so-called Facebook friends. There is a clear distinction between private and social and personal fights are rather kept private. Go ahead, tell your FB friends the best dating places you two have discovered, but please do away without the intimate photos. You are subjecting your relationship to opinions that really don’t matter and that could sway how you should deal with your problems. And oh, unless you guys are totally over, stop playing with the relationship status button.
2. Believing too much – the internet can create wings on lions and you can be practically anything you want to be on the web. Do not believe everything people say about you or your partner on Facebook or risk losing your relationship over some fake comment.
3. Entertaining too much – there just are things on Facebook that are better left ignored. Like the sexy bikini photo of some girl you knew in college – liking that can create a war. Or answering back to a provocative message flirtatiously – really man, why?
4. Privacy issue – I’ve seen couples fight and break up over passwords. But ask yourself, do I need to share my passwords with him/her? How much do you trust each other over your passwords? How private should you be on your social media sites?
Like everything and anything, social media requires a lot of responsibility. And yes, it should not be as valuable as your relationship. Handle it well!
Being in a digital age doesn’t mean signing up for all the new networking sites. It entails responsibility from every member, too, to protect their own privacy. And if you can’t handle rejection, might as well stay away from these sites as much as you can so as not to anger your partner.
Hope you learned a little something from me today! TIll next time!