Recently I was out on a mini tour of the Heptanesian islands, and I was amazed at the amount of progress that we have made as a county. Being a dating guru I always get questions on my relationship abilities everywhere I go. After posting on the best places to go on a date I got a couple of questions from the regular readers of the Heptanesian Chronicles -

• “Mahen, shall I buy flowers to impress my girl?”
• “Mahen, how should I dress up? Formal or what?”
• “Mahen, should I wear my red bow tie?”"

All rather valid questions I must say. If you want to impress the girl that you are dating then you must be prepared to put your best foot forward. Seriously. The dating game is hard, and you will have to put your “game” face on. Every single time.

Being A Flirt – The Key To Seduction Success

Now every guy must be able to master the game of being a flirt if he wants to be successful at dating and seduction. There’s absolutely no question about that at all. If you want to make a girl fall in love with you then you must put in the work. Success does not come too easily. Trust me on this.

She was once a hottie too! Random picture taken off the streets on Mumbai

The most essential skill that a man must have in order to be good with women is to master the art of flirting. If you want some really good resources on how to be a flirt, then read this article. It has got probably the most sane, level-headed advice I have seen in literally years. Women have known that being good flirt will put them ahead at work. Don’t believe me? Check out this Huffington Post article. A mind-blowing read.

But I digress…

Mastering the art of flirting will always be tricky – because learning how to flirt alone is not sufficient without ample practice. You need to get out there and get rejected in order to be good at dating! Don’t learn “seduction” in a vacuum. That is a surefire mistake. Instead, engage (women!) on a daily basis and you will soon be a seduction superstar.

How To Seduce Women – A Recommended Resource

Meanwhile, if you need to learn up on seduction techniques and tactics, always remember that there are good online resources out there. My favorite is the Seduction FAQ blog which I have covered many, many times on this blog. I knew the blog writer through the Internet via a chatroom called the Mystery Lounge many, many years back, and he has been imparting his seduction wisdom through his writings which have since been culminated in the SeductionFAQ.com blog. If you want his best techniques and tips then read this article on how to seduce women. It’s killer content.

So the bottom line is this – learn everything you can about dating, love and seduction online, but move offline in order to practice your chops. Easy peasy!

Meanwhile, I read this news article about Obama cutting his own pay in order to show solidarity with workers. Well, that sure is impressive, and I admire him for having the guts to do this. Way to go, Obama!

Today’s article on dating and seducing women is inspired by this video clip -

Deciding which place to go can be a difficult part in dating. Sometimes, it can be frustrating for both parties to decide where to go. And when you finally agreed on it, you end up disliking it. This is why it is important to plan ahead when setting out a date. Here are some great suggestions of activities and places that can make the dating process even more romantic and enjoyable.

Certainly Not in a Movie House

“Mahen, what? You serious? The movie house is like one of the most abused places to go for a date. I want something that’s unique and something else.”

Well, my friend, watching a movie might be a very common think already. But to tell you the truth, it is still one of the most preferred places by dating couples in the world. In fact, a lot of people who are dating today watch movies every so often and they don’t get bored with it. In addition, most serious and long lasting relationships nowadays started up watching movies together. And only a few couples, if there are any, have never been into watching movies for a date.

So don’t underestimate the power of watching movies and eating popcorns. We never know how it might lead you to the next level of your relationship. It’s not boring. It’s healthy. And it’s a surefire way on how to win a girl’s heart – believe it.

A Picnic in a Park

“A picnic, Dr Mahen? Pffft! Old School!”

Yes, it is old school. But the old school thing is what makes it unique for today’s generation. In fact, old school is trending. People of today want to do things usually done in the past but are rarely done nowadays. This explains why people usually choose party themes as “retro”.

So try finding a nice park near your place and start packing up your favorite food and drinks. Oh, and don’t forget to bring a mat that’s big enough to accommodate the two of you and your food stuff. It’s old school but it’s romantic… and a surefire way to win a girl over by connecting with her emotionally.

Joy Riding

“Nah, not joy ride please. That’s too expensive.”

Yes it is expensive. That’s why couples don’t prefer this kind of date. But it’s the joy part of joy riding that matters, not the riding part. You see the point in it? If you find it financially demanding, then you can just plan it ahead and set aside some money for it. That way money won’t ever be a problem at all.

With joy riding, both of you can be wherever you want and do whatever you want. In short, it can be a package date: lunch date, dinner date, watching sunset together, star gazing at night, or watching the sun rise. It’s an all-in-one kind of date. If you still want to skimp over things, then try meditation.

All in all, with the right place for a date, you can have the best date ever. In every dating place, you will leave a footprint of your memory together and a perfectly chosen dating place is what makes the dating extra special. It is an important part in having a strong and healthy relationship with your partner.

-Dr Mahen

Alright, if you have read my previous blog posts (here and here) then you’ll realize that I have problems with women. As I am fixing my dating life I have made some important realizations about the opposite sex. So I am devoting this blog post to a tricky question – what to do when a girl ignores you?

Whether you want to win over the heart of your dream girl who doesn’t know you exist or get your ex girlfriend back, the overall idea that you have to look into will pretty much be the same: you will need to learn what to do when a girl ignores you. In other words, you need to inject some romance and communication in your life.

See, girls love little romantic gestures, like getting chocolates and flowers and walking under the moonlight. So, if you want to know what to do when a girl ignores you, just put some effort into wooing her and you will go a long way. If you persist long enough, she will give in – and remember that persistence is the key ingredient if you want to know how to get a girlfriend quickly.

Observe her closely, for example, without making it too obvious. Learn more about her tastes and habits. Watch how she dresses, how she makes her coffee, and learn about which movies, restaurants and books she likes. Here are several other ideas for you to look into, so you’ll know what to do when a girl ignores you next time:

1. Talk and listen.

If you want a girl to stay interested in you, then you have to change the way that you communicate with her. Communication happens to be a big problem in a lot of relationships, so don’t keep your own feelings bottled up. Tell her exactly how you feel and make sure you listen when she talks, too.

While she talks, make sure you don’t start wondering about what you should say next, either. Just listen to her and try to figure out why she is saying what she is saying. Try to figure out how she feels, as well, and then fix it accordingly. Dr Phil wrote a good article which was posted at this link.

2. Learn to compromise.

Girls are very different from guys, so it only makes sense that they have different views, outlooks, likes and dislikes from you. As such, you shouldn’t expect girls to share all of your opinions. In fact, you should learn to respect theirs and try not to win when it comes to arguments and fights. If you really like a girl, then find an acceptable solution to any problems that you might have and you will end up in a much happier place afterwards – believe it. If you need to calm your nerves, you should meditate (using brainwave entrainment programs for example).

3. Forgive and forget.

If you are at a complete loss on what to do when a girl ignores you after a fight, then learn to forgive and forget – especially if the fight was over petty things. Don’t talk about the past as much as possible, either, and try not make mountains out of molehills. If something still bothers you afterwards, talk about it and try to resolve things together. Then, simply move on and live in the present.

Now, if nothing seems to work and you still have no idea what to do when a girl ignores you, then you might want to see a counselor with her or alone. Trained relationship counselors can actually be very helpful in bringing you through your difficulties and might just be exactly what you need in order to get things back on track. If you need more help, check out sites like askmen dotcom or http://octobermansequence.org for example.

I hope you liked that I wrote above. Email me with questions!

-Dr Mahen

There are a lot of men that have no problem finding an attractive woman to date, but connecting with her on an emotional level is a different story. After a while, many men discover that the woman they’re dating isn’t the one for them. This is usually because she doesn’t hold the same values or views on certain issues. Other times, it’s simply because they do not connect emotionally. It is very hard to emotionally connect with a woman after you have been dating her for a while. In order to have a meaningful, long lasting relationship with a woman you need to connect with her emotionally from the beginning. So, how do you connect emotionally with a woman?

How To Connect With A Woman Emotionally

The first step to connecting emotionally with a woman is getting to know her. Many men think that knowing where she works and how many siblings she has is enough. Unfortunately, if you want to truly connect with her, you’ll need to know more than this. Sometimes it can be awkward to have deep conversations with her, but it is necessary for building a solid foundation. The more you know about her, the more you will be able to understand her. You’ll know why she acts certain ways around certain people and why she is in a bad mood. Just as you need to know her on a deep level, she needs to know you on a deep level. It is important that you both know each other on the same level so that you will be able to connect with each other long term.

After you have both found out a great deal of information about each other, you need to start asking her for input. In order to connect with a woman emotionally, you need her to feel like she is equal.This article in Psychology Today magazine explains precisely why.

If you always make the decisions, she won’t feel like you are taking her into account. For example, instead of telling her which restaurant to meet you at, tell her that you had a certain restaurant in mind but wanted to make sure that she would like it.

As you’ve probably realized by now, it’s the little things that matter when it comes to connecting with a girl. While guys tend to look at the big picture, women have a tendency to over-analyze small things. Because of this, you need to make sure that you shift your attention from the big scale to the small scale. When you do this, you’re girlfriend will be happier and in turn you will be happier. It’s pointless to learn about tactics on how to seduce a woman but fail at understanding smaller things that matter.

Now that you know how to connect emotionally with a woman, you should be able to maintain more meaningful relationships. Even if you are physically attracted to a woman, it can be very hard to have a long-term relationship if you do not have a good understanding of each other. While it can be a lot of work to get to know your girlfriend on a deep level, it pays off in the end.

Any questions regarding this article? Leave me a message in the blog comment section below.

-Dr Mahen

PS: In my next blog article, I will expand further on the usage of brainwave entrainment (I have previously blogged about this) in meditation and relationships. Stay put!

Hello, it’s Mahen again, and I am back blogging! Hope you like my previous article on brainwave entrainment and meditation. Today I am going to share with you some stuff on dating and relationships which I have learned from pickup artists and gurus like Tyler Durden, Derek Rake and Neil Strauss. Sites like http://www.fractionationseduction.net is also pretty awesome when it comes to dishing out dating techniques and advice. I’ve also been reading Oprah’s website a lot. Check them out.

Many people are not complete unless they have a partner in crime. Everything seems to be better when you have a girlfriend to do it with. If you are trying to get a girl to fall in love with you, you might have some trouble along the way. You need to remember that women are much more complicated than men. Things that seem unimportant to you can be highly important to your partner. In order to get a girl to fall in love with you, you need to be very careful of your actions. The following paragraphs will explain how to do this successfully.

The first step to getting a girl to fall in love with you is to always be available. There are two ways to be available: physically and emotionally.

Let’s first talk about being physically available. A girl will not fall in love with you if you never answer your phone or never respond to your text messages. She will think that you’re a jerk that will never take her seriously. If you really want to be with this girl long-term, you need to make sure that you always respond back to her in a timely manner.

If she needs somebody to help her carry something heavy, volunteer to do it. She’ll appreciate the small favors that you constantly do for her. Women want to be with a caring, kind man.

Emotional Aspect of a Relationship

Next, let’s talk about being emotionally available. The girl that you are interested in might be equally interested in you, but she’d never act like it if she didn’t think you were emotionally unavailable. If you are quiet or distant when you meet up with her, she won’t take you seriously. Emotional availability is one of the biggest criteria used to judge a man’s worthiness as a boyfriend. If you want to know how to pick up girls then it’s essential to be emotionally available.

Also, make sure that you don’t talk about all of your problems when you first start dating. Otherwise, she’ll think that you already have too much on your plate and can’t handle having a serious girlfriend. Try to allow the woman to do most of the talking so that you can act as a shoulder to lean on for advice.

Inside a Woman’s Mind – Keys To Successful Relationships

Finally, you need to be considerate in order for a girl to fall in love with you. Make sure that you are nice to her family and friends, since these are the most important people in her life. Girls don’t like it if you have a temper, so remember to always keep your emotions under control when you’re with her. If somebody cuts you off, don’t cuss the person out if your girlfriend is in the car. Instead, remain as calm as possible.

Woman like it when you stay calm because it makes it easier for them to see you as a long-term partner. They’ll think that if you remain calm when you’re driving, you’ll make a good father and a good husband. Again, women are more sensitive and detail oriented than men.

As long as you keep this in the back of your mind, you should be able to get a girl to fall in love with you in no time.

Hope you enjoyed this article. I will be back soon enough, and if you need to ask me any questions just email me: mahen_k@gmail.com

-Dr Mahen
Mumbai, India